Almost every man in the world who is capable of masturbating has experienced the pleasure of masturbation. Solo sex simply feels good. It has been known to aid in sleep and help relieve both sexual and mental stress. Here’s five facts men may not have known about their bed time habits:
1. “Abnormal” masturbation does not exist.
Many men worry that their form of masturbation is the “wrong” or “abnormal” way to masturbate. Experts explain that many men exhibit various techniques when undergoing masturbation and the frequency of masturbation is also something that is individual to each person. PhD Betty Dodson, a New York sexologist who authored Sex for One, explains that since each human being’s personality is unique, it makes sense that each masturbation technique fits their unique personality. Author of The Big Book of Masturbation, Martha Cornog, explains that men may not only utilize their hands during masturbation. Men have also been known to utilize sex toys, inanimate objects, looks at specific reading materials while masturbating, or even watch themselves in the mirror while performing solo sex.
2. Masturbation is “safe” but can be dangerous.
One of the most positive attributes of masturbation is that you probably will be unable to give yourself a sexually transmitted disease. Sex with a partner can also be filled with many emotional and physical strains that masturbation is inherently free of. Yet while masturbation is some of the “safest sex possible” states Cornog, it can also be inherently harmful if not treated with care.
Over-masturbation is a common (although rarely spoken about publically) issue that occurs when a man masturbates too frequently or too vigorously. An unhealthy amount and/or type of masturbation can cause damage to a person’s penis. The most common effect of over-masturbation in men is an irritation of the penile skin. Another issue that occurs due to specific types of masturbation practices is the injury of the urethra due to reoccurring instances of masturbating face down. Most men who practice this type of masturbation tend to thrust their penis into some sort of cloth like object such as a pillow, sheet, or carpet. When this type of masturbation happens on a habitual basis there is eventual damage to the urethra. Sex Therapist Barbara Bartlik, MD, has seen many cases in which the urethra is so damaged that the man’s urine exists as a spray rather than a stream of liquid. Some cases were so severe that her patients found that they had to stop using urinals entirely. These men must spend many years or the rest of their lives urinating in a seated position, as women do.
Although rare, both masturbation and sex have been known to cause penile fracture. This occurs when an erect penis is somehow forced downward or possibly strikes a hard object, causing a tear in the tunica albuginea or the white tissue that surrounds the spongy layers of the penis. Some penile fractures can be so severe that they may require surgery.
3. The benefits solo sex on sex life.
Solo sex can help a man truly get to know what makes him sexually aroused. By knowing this information, they can help their partner understand how to arouse them during foreplay. Men can also benefit from masturbation from learning what it feels like to orgasm and learning to prevent premature ejaculation. Masturbation can also help if a person is unable to have sex with their partner or has a higher sex drive than their partner.
4. How solo sex can be detrimental to sex life.
Frequent stimulation that doesn’t replicate or mimic the sensations one gets when with a partner, i.e. rapid masturbation, can cause a man to experience retarded ejaculation. This causes the man to have trouble or be prevented from climaxing during sexual intercourse. Michael A. Perelman (president of the Society for Sex Therapy Research and clinical associate professor of psychiatry, urology, and reproductive medicine at New York’s weill Cornell Medical College) advises that men take a good look at how their masturbation techniques differ from their sexual experiences and try to find a medium between the two.
5. Masturbation linked to prostate cancer.
The relationship between the two has proven to be hazy due to different opinions of experts.
A 2003 BJU International study published in Australia linked a reduced risk for prostate cancer to frequent masturbation. The Journal of the American Medical Association published a study in 2004 stating that frequent ejaculation does not increase one’s risk of prostate cancer. Both studies cited both masturbation and sexual intercourse as ejaculation frequency.
The BJU International published a study in Janurary, which found that frequent masturbation raised one’s risk in young men while older men retained a lower risk. The risk for prostate cancer is not affected by sexual intercourse.